WHY?

‘Sex’ is not a taboo word. Before we embark on our journey to learn more about sex per se, let’s see why people actually have sex…

ü  Making babies: At its heart, sex is about making babies. If you absolutely, positively don't want to make a baby, then don't have sexual intercourse — be abstinent. No birth control is foolproof.

ü  Enjoying a sensory experience: Many people engage in sex for the sensory experience, the wide range of physical and emotional pleasures that a person can derive from sexual activity.

ü  Partnering up: Sex can play a role in forming a bond with another person, which is yet another need that humans have.

ü  For love and the long haul: The drive to find someone to love remains a strong one. Part of the glue that holds longtime love together is sex.                      

                                                                                                                   (Adapted from sex for dummies)

Ever pondered what was your reason? Whatever the reason is whoever it is going to be with, make sure you do it at the right time, with the right person and for the right  reasons.                                                             

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Children Learn What They Live

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.

If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.

If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.

If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.

If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.

If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.

If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.

If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.

If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

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Dorothy Law Nolte, 1998

Listening Solves Problem

I always wondered after every argument, “What is the best way to resolve an argument?”. It never hit me till one day my partner told me,

“Don’t you ever listen?”

Is that what am I lacking? Being a listener. That’s when I realized that being a good listener should be the easiest thing but always being ignored by many of us. A relationship is not based on only how good you treat someone or how understanding you are, it is also important to listen. Listening is essential and it’s different from hearing. When you listen, you pay attention and when you speak you expect that the listener understands what you said. It is give and take. Being a good listener helps us not only to solve problems but also to see the world through the eyes of others.

5 simple ways to be a listener:

1.    Be physically and mentally ready to listen.

2.    Look at the person. Show that you are listening.

3.    Never interrupt the person before they are finished.

4.    Be patient and not defensive.

5.    Learn to read in between lines so that you can hear what the person is really saying.  

  So now, I know that one way to reduce misunderstanding is by listening, which I actually realized after ‘listening” to my partner.

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